What Falling in Love and Decorating Your Home Have in Common
What Falling in Love and Decorating Your Home Have In Common
Falling in love rarely begins with a drum roll, a bolt of lightning or even with physical attraction.
Instead, it almost begins with something small and intangible, such as a smile, a touch or a few words that get our attention and call to us. That’s how it was for me on a glorious spring day more than twenty years ago, when a man I barely knew came to my home for a business workshop.
There was a lot going on in my home that day. Someone was in the kitchen making lunch. A few people were sitting in the living-room and a few more were having a discussion on the deck. I had a house guest whose very-large black dog was playing a game of catch-me-if-you-can with my two smaller dogs and a man I barely knew was seated at the desk in my home-office.
As I walked into that room, he looked up from his work and smiled. “I love the way your home feels,” he said. “It’s so comfortable and welcoming.” He paused a moment, as though he was choosing his words. “…and it’s peaceful here too, even with so much going on.” He smiled again. “I felt it the moment I stepped through the door.”
….And somewhere in heaven the angels-of-love looked down on the two of us and smiled, for the man I barely knew had seen my home with his heart rather than with his eyes.
Photo of parker
This is my sweetheart Parker, the wonderful man who I once barely knew.
Parker didn’t say he loved the paint colors, artwork, furniture and window treatments I’d chosen. Instead he described how the combination of those “decorative ingredients” made him FEEL.
Most people I know begin their home decorating by thinking first about how they want their home to LOOK ... Yet, beginning their interior design dreams from this visual-vantage-point almost always causes them to second-guess themselves. This is because there is such an infinite variety of “decorative ingredients” from which to choose.
No one I know would start baking a cake by taking out the entire contents of the pantry and spreading it out on their kitchen counter. Because they are planning to bake a cake, rather than to make spaghetti, they narrow their choices by putting out just the ingredients their cake recipe lists.
Once they have narrowed their choices, most of my cake-baking friends would never consider using the ingredients at the bottom of their recipe first. Instead they simplify their baking process and have fewer reasons to second-guess themselves because they are beginning their baking from at the place in their recipe that gives them the greatest possibility of success.
The easiest and most empowering way to narrow and simplify your home decorating choices is to begin by thinking of the seven adjectives that best describe the way you would like your home to FEEL.
If you have chosen adjectives such as peaceful, spirit nurturing, warm, inviting and relaxing, you are unlikely to choose clear, bright colors, fabric patterns with a high level of contrast and seated furniture that is more stylish than comfortable.
If the majority of your adjectives are nurturing and peaceful you are likely to feel more comfortable and happy if you are using a pattern like the one below.
If you have chosen adjectives such as exciting, bold, wind-swept, uncluttered and dramatic, you are unlikely to choose muted colors, fabric patterns that feel too quiet or artwork that doesn’t make a statement.
If the majority of your adjectives are exciting and bold you are likely to feel more comfortable and happy if you are using a pattern like the one below.
Very few people choose exclusively peaceful or exciting adjectives.
Because this is so I have created two DECORATING GROUPS, each of which is based on the seven adjectives that best describe the way you would like your home to FEEL.
These two DECORATING GROUPS will teach you:
- How to narrow and simplify your choices, so you won’t second guess your decorating decisions.
- How to create a “bridge of connection” with people whose adjectives are very different than yours.
- How to seek alternatives, rather than compromises.
- How to create a comfortable, welcoming home that nurtures your spirit, reflects your values, serves your needs and gives you a feeling of accomplishment and pride.
To learn more about the power and potential of these two DECORATING GROUPS go to http://.homedecoratingfairygodmother.com.
LET THE MAGIC BEGIN!